Revised essay "Evening Parties"

Human beings are strangers, no one can understand them in society, but only themselves. They give us fake pleasure rather than a physical one. Actors in a play, pretending;or dressing like a bride and groom, showing off; or even starving for food,like dogs. Sally forth at someone’s else expenses nor because they really feel that they want to be there. I see them being conventional with others by trying to do the same things. Hostess or host are not there for them , she or he disappears from the time that all come up. They don’t celebrate hostess birthday or the event that are invited to, but these they think is better for them; wathcing football match; or even playing cards to spend their time. Some things in life are mechanical and ironic enough to make you feel pity for someone. We use our pity to serve others instead of doing what really gives us pleasure. Unconsciously we act as “the others” want our selves and our perception play hide and seek.
There are several kind of parties that you may be invited to, wedding party, anniversary party, birthday party, halloween party, new year’s eve party or an opening party. At one time or another in our lives we will host some sort of dinner party. In order to host a party, you have to select the menu depending on culture, set the table depending on the class of your quests and serve the food when they are ready to eat. Usually the head of the table is the host or hostess and then the others. If you can be invisble and watch the dinner party, you will understand that all are mechanical. Even they way that they are passing food. Firstly, you have to eat the starter, then the main course and at the end the desert. They pass the plates starting from the right to the left. Who said that it has to be in that way? Do they ever try it with the opposite way? No, because they’ve been taught that is has to be like that. Once that I decided to start from the end, the chocolate soufle with vanila ice cream gave me such a sweet taste and I was hungry more than before and then, I ate all my vegetable soup and then the chicken a la crème. I made my own combination which gave a different taste in my meal.
When the appointed date arrives, we believe to be suitable and perfect enough for the party and we dress up depence on the other quests. We are running to buy clothes to be vantage of the night even when you don’t have money for a descent meal;or you borrow clothes from your neighboors. Therefore we clothe ourselves to pleasure ‘’the others’’ not to be comfortable and feel ourself in a way. According to Macaulay’s essay “ if it gives you no pleasure , and if, further, you derive none from listening to the remarks of others, there is no need to converse’’. I totally agree with her, we should do whatever make us feel happy and not pretending, just to be there like a chair, an object with no soul. Wear anything you like, a jean with a white t-shirt; or even wear a dress that costs fifteen euro because you like it but not something expensive that makes you look like a “frick”and doesn’t match you. Be yourself anywhere you go.
Evening parties are prepared to give pleasure to quests and have fun. Hostess preparation for a party is too difficult as hostess is the slave of the kitchen all of the day and expensive indeed. I am convinced that the majority of human beings do not go to parties because he or she respects the hostess but to have a nice diner, or spent his or her time; or even showing off themselves to find a lover and then to get a room. It’s not that the point. We should go to parties, I agree, you can meet other people and have a brief discussion with them but not to get a room after that. Oh, my goodness! Realation-ships are not like that. Good realation ships depend on you, from the first time you will start creating it, if something goes wrong you lost the game.
This is, when you get your posteboard card inscribed with the details of the party, make questions to your self, “Shall I have fun to this?’’ “ I will dance and feel the music?” “It’s better if I stay at home cook pasta and watch discovery channel?”. Seat down to your relaxing chair and think if you prefer to spend your money to go somewhere that you may feel useless,or organize to go out with your friends at a club with a music of your choice. Hopefully as adults we have the opportunity to choose. On the other hand go to the party that you are invited to, and if you realize that you feel like been in a theatre with actors to pretend, attiring rediculous dressers and costums and that you want to shrick, wait until such time as is convenient find the exit door and run away. Don’t let others to play with your perception, your perception is right. Each human being acts differently because no one is the same. The whole world is full of differences and opposites. Open your eyes clearly and you can see what really happens.